Melissa Ambrosini is a speaker, self-love teacher, bestselling author of Mastering Your Mean Girl and Open Wide, and host of the top-rated podcast, The Melissa Ambrosini Show. In her signature straight-talking style, Melissa teaches women how to unlock their full potential, master their inner Mean Girl, smash through limiting beliefs, and ditch the self-doubt so they can start living the life of their dreams.
How has your life experience inspired you to pave your path into a successful business?
It all began back in 2010. I hit rock bottom and ended up in hospital after burning the candle at both ends. Before that, I was a professional dancer, actress and TV presenter. Although that may sound really glamorous — and although it may have looked like I had a great life on the outside — on the inside, I was dying. My health was plummeting, my relationships were toxic, I no longer liked the work I was doing, plus I was dealing with anxiety, panic attacks, depression and an eating disorder. When I ended up in hospital it was a huge wake-up call for me, and that’s what sparked me to turn my whole life around and led me to my true path.
From there, I wanted to get happy and healthy again, so I made that my mission. I went on to study holistic nutrition and health and life coaching, and became a qualified yoga teacher. I learned how to meditate and studied AcuEnergetics (energy healing work). But most important of all, I begin my inward journey to uncover the true me.
From there, I started sharing what I was learning on this newfangled thing (that none of my family or friends had heard of) called a ‘blog’. I began sharing my lessons and learnings on my blog, in my ebooks, online courses and talks. I knew I was onto something, because women were coming up to me in the street and saying: “Thank you so much for your honesty, I thought I was the only one who dealt with eating issues and a lack of self love.” Since 2010 I have stayed on my path and true to my mission, which is to inspire women to unlock their full potential and live the life of their dreams. Everything I do and create is with that intention in my mind and heart.
What specific strategies do you or have you used to overcome limiting beliefs?
I practice my Mastering Your Mean Girl three-step process to overcome all my limiting beliefs. It goes like this:
- Practice awareness. Become aware of when your inner Mean Girl pops up and tells you that you’re not good enough, thin enough, smart enough, whatever enough. Most times we are so unconscious and not present that we aren’t even aware of her internal dialogue, so bringing your awareness to her words is the first step.
- Gently close the door on her. Once you are aware that she has popped up, you can now choose to gently close the door on her. It’s not about fighting her, or waging an inner battle — that’ll just cause more pain and suffering. Instead, it’s a graceful act that comes from a place of love.
- Choose love instead. Once you have gently closed the door on her, choose to come back to your heart and choose love instead of fear. It’s so much more fulfilling when you do.
What’s the source of your drive to empower others?
God, love, the Universe, a higher purpose (whatever you want to call it), that’s what drives me. We are here on Earth to serve others. It’s our purpose and mission.
What does the first hour of your morning routine look like?
My day always starts with gratitude in bed with my husband. Then, if we have time we will connect, which is always my favorite way to start the day. After that I head to the bathroom to scrape my tongue (which is an ancient Ayurvedic ritual), I’ll wash my face, brush my teeth and do coconut oil pulling which is another ancient Ayurvedic ritual I love. After that I meditate for 20 minutes, then do 15 minutes of yoga on my bedroom floor in my PJs. Then I will make myself a delicious hydrating green smoothie and either have a bath with Epsom salts and essential oils or a shower followed by a self-love essential oils massage. Then I start my day.
What is the best or most worthwhile investment you’ve ever made?
The investment in myself. Getting coaches for business, health, life and spiritual mentors has been the best investment I have ever made. We all need coaches and every cent I have spent has been well worth it.
What are one to three books that have greatly changed your life?
Besides Mastering Your Mean Girl and Open Wide, I would have to say Conversations With God (by Neale Donald Walsch), You Can Heal Your Life (by Louise Hay) and Dear Lover (by David Deida). There have been so many epic books that have impacted my life so I wrote a whole post on it for you.
What new belief, behaviour or habit has most improved your life?
Learning how to master my inner Mean Girl has changed my life! It’s a very simple process, but you need to practice it daily. We have between 60,000 and 80,000 thoughts per day so at the start you may need to master her 80,000 times, But, like anything, the more you practice, the better and better you get at it.
What is your best wellness tip for feeling good?
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